How do you do it?
How do you survive the toddler years?
If things do not happen my daughter way she has a tantrum! And believe me her tantrums are not the easiest ever! Or maybe I think they are that bad because she is my first child? Sometimes she screams that bad that makes my neighbours come out on the communal hallway. I do wonder sometimes if they think she screams because I beat her! No I don’t! I was beaten as a child when I didn’t listen so beaten is the last thing I would do!
Do you give in to make your life easier? I sometimes do that…but how long before it will affect her and I will never be able to change her attitude?
I left the nursery crying today! Again! This morning she just refused to wear her socks as she wanted to wear her beach shoes. I said NO because she can barely walk in them. That’s when the screaming started! I refused to make do and let her do her own way…I said to her that if she can’t wear the beach shoes and she will have to wear others. She didn’t want any so…I said to her that she will go bare feet then. In my defence the nursery is only 200 m from our flat so…She walked and cried in her bare feet and then she asked for shoes. Lesson learned? You will think so…However when we got to the nursery she refused her socks again. Left them in her bag. You should’ve seen the look in her teachers eyes. I know they judge me because she’s been crying and she’s red faced. As I’m writing this I’m still weeping…
Last week she had a tantrum because she couldn’t figure what jacket she wanted to wear…she sat on the wet floor on the pathway refusing to move! What am I suppose to do when that happens?!? What?!? I tried to hold her in my arms but I’m pregnant and she was kicking her feet in belly and slapping my face! What am I suppose to do then?!?
I mean how do you do it?!? Do you give in or educate?Is it my fault?! Working mum and so on? There are days when we get along so well! And I love her so much! And really don’t want to see her cry…but I can’t always give in can I?
I feel like a bad mum… A bad working mum that will be late for work today because her daughter had a tantrum. Then I will have to compensate for being late and stay longer at work which will mean I will get home later too…and this means that I will not get to spend a lot of time with her, my daughter that I love so much!
Please help. Let me know if you have the same problems or maybe you found a way to fix these problems? As you can see I definitely need advice!
Still weeping…as I’m on my way to work on the tube..