Babies things and feeling sexy as a woman don’t really go with each other don’t you think? I keep hearing about women talking about being “Yummy Mummy” after having babies but it’s not really like that.
I had problems loving myself and considering myself sexy before having babies and as you can imagine things are a lot worse right now. I don’t think that sleepless nights, continuous feeding, sore boobs and baby vomit can really make a woman feel a “yummy mummy” don’t you think?
Maybe if we all had nannies to help us 24 hours things will be a little bit different but if you are not a celebrity or movie star you will still have to deal with mummy things.
Women like Posh Spice and Jennifer Lopez got so fast into shape and so toned because they looked after themselves at least 80% of the time. If a normal woman had the same help at hand – nanny, personal chef, supervised diet and exercise things will be different.
A couple of days i asked some of my fellow friends a question that is been bugging me for a while – what makes them feel sexy?
The opinions were different as you can imagine but one thing was said that didn’t surprise me. The ladies were talking about feeling good rather than feeling sexy. I totally agree. If i had problems feeling sexy before i became a mum now it just doesn’t happen…I tried buying sexy lingerie , telling myself i am sexy every morning but nothing works. My image of myself is just squashed. I have moments when i feel good about myself although most of the time i don’t…
I don’t feel like a sexy woman when i look in the mirror…i feel like a mum on which you can still see some baby sick on the shoulder, i feel like an old lady because make up barely touch my face in the last couple of years.
Some of my friends said that a new haircut or hair free legs can make them feel good and sexy but…with me is not the same.
One of my friend said that proper compliments from her husband will make them feel sexy. Again with me is not the same….My poor husband…no matter what he says and in how many ways he will say it…to me it sounds like he is joking or not telling the truth. It is probably because i don’t love myself enough…I don’t think i ever loved myself. I barely like myself most of the times.
Before i met my husband i never walked naked in front of a man or let them touch my bum. Before i met my husband i was less self confident that i am now so you can imagine…
My sexy lingerie still sits in my wardrobe..untouched, unused and with the tags on. I am afraid that if i put them on i will feel even less confident seeing my bumps from cellulite and the stretch marks.
I will probably feel better in something that covers my whole body when I go to bed – a onesie is just perfect to me but hubby will probably hate it!
Maybe in years to come when i will lose the extra weight and my girls will be older my image about myself and my self confidence will grow but for now i will be happy if some days i feel good about myself although i love to be one of those women who feel good in their skin no matter their size.
If you are a mum and you manage to find a way to feel good and sexy about yourself i would love to hear from you with tips and advice. At almost 33 i feel like i am 70…