As you can imagine i barely stopped myself from crying when i heard my daughter saying that.
How can a 4 and half year old ask such a thing?
To tell you the truth she’s been asking questions about death and people dying for a while now and every time someway or another i managed to get out of explaining her exactly what death is.
But this time around she didn’t stop…she asked over and over again…
And while she was asking this question she came and sat in my arms so i had no escape!
So this is how our conversation went:
Mummy: Kara why are you asking such a thing sweetheart!
Kara: Mummy, i just want to know that is all…you know daddy’s mummy and daddy died…so….just tell me…
Mummy: But sweetheart nobody knows when someone dies. People die because they are really old or because they get really really ill. You are 4 and a half years old and there is a long time to go until you get old…
Kara: So…mummy…do i die after i grow up and have kids and get married?
Mummy(trying to change the course of the conversation): Do you want to get married Kara?
Kara: But mummy…hm…who am i going to marry? Can i not have kids if i don’t get married?
Mummy: Yes of course you can.
Kara: But how mummy? How?
Kara: But mummy…you know i can’t get married with a boy…i need to marry a prince!
Mummy: Well…you might decide that the boy you fall in love with is your prince..
Kara: So mummy…then first i am going to grow up, get married,have kids and then my kids will grow up and have kids and then i will die? But mummy…you will die first isn’t it? If you do i am really going to miss you!
Mummy: Sweetheart mummy loves you loads and loads and i will be with you forever. Nobody knows when somebody dies but while i am here i am going to take care of you and love you more and more.
Then we had cuddles. Lots of cuddles and although i felt that she wanted to ask more questions i said to her that we should probably watch some cartoon together to which she said:
“Ok mummy. I love you mummy!”
“I love you too sweetheart!”
Aw…my heart melts every time she tells me she loves me!
That was quite a conversation that i didn’t think i will have with my daughter as such a young age…How did i do?
Did you discuss with your kids about death?