So yeh although i am married most of the time I feel like a single parent.
99.99% of the time i am the one taking all the decisions regarding my girls. Simple decisions but time consuming ones.
When do we eat? What do we eat? Anastasia can’t eat the same thing as Kara…
Aw…wait Kara can’t go to nursery today as she is snotty and she is coughing so i need to figure out a plan and activities for the whole day…
At some point one of them will cry or scream because they are not happy…
The weather changed as well so is not sunny and nice.
The girls need to be dressed with thick clothes. Clothes that they don’t like.
Anastasia will scream as she just doesn’t want to get dress.
Kara will just point blank say:
“Mummy! I don’t want to wear jeans and tights!”
All i would love to do is just to sit on the couch cuddling them and watch some dull cartoon but my girls just can’t do it for more than 15 minutes at the time.
Anastasia is so active and she just wants to play and play and play.
Kara only wants her mummy for herself without the baby.
She sometimes even says:
“Before the baby we could go anywhere…”
Bless her i wish i was able to take her out more but i don’t drive and the transport where we are is difficult with a child and a baby single handed.
When hubby is around all is better. I can relax and have a cup of tea without getting up 10 times in a half an hour to remove Anastasia from trapping her fingers at the draws, or door or getting her hands in the shower drain.
And I wonder why by the end of the day i’m knackered.
I am trying to get used to parenting solo. I am trying to take the best decisions for my daughters. But most of the time one of them cries by the end of the day.
And i will be sincere…most of the time that is me….I cry when i realise how lonely i am after i get the girls in bed.
How do you do it? How do you do the solo parenting? What do you do at the end of the day when there is nobody there to talk things through with?