Please…stop judging!
Being overweight is not an easy thing! I mean seriously nobody wants to be overweight and of course as an overweight person I share the same wish. Some people choose to be overweight and some people struggle to not be overweight. If you know me you will certainly know that I am not part of the first category.
I don’t like being overweight – FAT as you will call me. And believe it or not I struggle to lose weight although you might not think so just by looking at me.
It’s been a long time since I barely ate any ice cream or drank any alcohol. I am not one that drinks every day like others might think I do and no I am not eating continuously.
When i see you looking at me when I DO EAT I can almost figure out what you are thinking…..
“Oh jeeh this is why she is so fat because she eats so much.”
“Hello! Do you even know what a diet is?”
And yes…I do know how is like to be on a diet. More or less I’ve been on a diet most of my life. Although in the past two years I’ve been at my heaviest I always been considered the fat one out of a group even though back then I wasn’t.
I DON’T NEED YOUR ADVICE
So please if you meet me and think of giving me any advice about dieting DON’T.
I know everything is needed to know about dieting and I don’t need to hear you advising me anymore. Talk about weather or kids or fashion or world in general. These are the subjects that will make you interesting to me.
Don’t say:
“I think you should give up bread completely. I am sure you will then lose all this extra weight” – Really do you eat any bread? If so just shove it up your ass next time!
“I read on the internet that if you drink so and so in the morning you will lose so and so kilograms” – If I took as good all the information that can be found on the internet then I will probably be dead by now.
Don’t send me anything
“Did you receive that book I send you about dieting?” – YES. I did. And no i didn’t read it. I binned it straight away. Do you have any idea how many books about dieting and diets I already have?
I could continue but these words hurt me….deeply…and there are so many others.
I know what to do. I know the methods I need to apply in order to lose weight. I AM trying but things like this take time.
So please STOP JUDGING!
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16 Comments
Kerrie McGiveron
We are all different, and we all have different goals for our appearance. I have extra weight and I am quite happy with myself. Yes, I would love to wake up a bit lighter tomorrow morning, but that's not going to happen so I'm just learning to be healthier and to love myself just as I am. Great post lovely xxx
Ninaspersonalspace
Although I am not overweight I do understand what you're saying. People need to stop being so mean and concentrate on their own lives rather than other peoples! In the same topic I HATE when certain overweight people I have on social network sites say 'men want curvy women only a dog wants a bone.' people are mean no matter your size and it really is society that can be so ugly!
Mammasaurus
It's no one else's business what size you are and saying hurtful things are so counterproductive. Oh I just want to hug you x
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Liz Burton
People really just come out with uninvited offers of 'advice' on how to lose weight??! Wow, that's mega rude. I wouldn't dream of telling someone something like that.
Hope you're ok. x
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becky abeautfulspace
My MIL tried to join me to a slimming club as a christmas pressie when i declined her offer she bought me a copy of the fast diet
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bavariansojourn
There's nothing worse than a judgemental person! In my experience, person that are judgemental usually have various issues themselves though and like to make themselves feel better by judging others… xx
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Donna@MummyCentral
I can so relate to this. I wish I had the answer, but I think everyone is different and so what works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another. And I'm still searching for what works for me.
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Sonya Cisco
Some people need lessons in manners I say! I too am heavier than I would like to be, and I am extra sensitive about it because it makes me unhappy, but I still think it is rude when people offer un-asked for advice!
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PinkOddy
I hate judgemental people – just ignore them – it's their problem not yours.
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Katy Hill
I used to live with a girl who hated that people constantly commented on how skinny she was! And we ate pretty much the same – just that our bodies did different things with it. You need to be happy, and comfy in your skin. That's what counts. LOVE that last cartoon btw! x
dorkymum
So sorry you've got unsupportive people around you Otilia – people are far too quick to judge. Hopefully this post will help them get the message. xx
Carolin
Ignore other people. You live life how you want and if it takes you 5 years to lose 5 kgs, then it does. It's no one's business but yours. I know it's hard and I've been struggling with my weight for decades, but it's got to happen in your own time and because you really want it. It won't work otherwise…
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mummybarrow
I could have written this post. As a society we are so quick to judge these days and we forget that underneath that there are real people with real feelings
Big hugs
Jane @ northernmum
I remember when I got weightwatcher recipe books for christmas once, I cried all day.
Sending love mrs x
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Liska @NewMumOnline
This is a battle I am currently on. I did it so so easily in 2001. Gave up alcohol, fizzy drinks, all sugar and the weight dropped off (also gave up the bread you mention above ha ha) but nowadays I don’t have the self discipline to put any of it into practice even though I know exactly what works for me.
Great post, and I hope given that this was written in May, that you are in a better place now. xx
Otilia
Not really unfortunately Lisa….Still battling still overweight unfortunately 🙁