Things that had to be told

Things that had to be told

I am finding it quite hard to get back to writing on this blog. I don’t know why…It might be because I don’t know in which direction to take this blog or I am just afraid to expose myself and my feelings like I used to.

All feels very strange though. My girls are bigger now and the issues I had with parenting when I started this blog no longer exist. I am not a parenting guru don’t get me wrong but I think I am simply more relaxed when it comes to parenting my girls and I just prefer to live and enjoy my life with them rather than writing in my spare time.

And now the lens I was using all the time broke as well…and I feel really lost without it. Thankfully I have my pics for the monthly update.

Plus I feel like I fell out of love with the way my site looks too and as the money are short I am trying to design it myself and it just annoys the hell out of me that I am not as good as some of my fellow bloggers at it!

I am watching a lot of tutorials and as I managed to make my new parenting site look betterΒ than this one and hopefully soon enough my beloved “Romanian Mum Blog” will look better too.

In the meantime I would love to hear from you. Tell me what would you like to read about on this site? One of the categories that will always exist on this site will be “My diary”, “My Journal”. After all by doing what I do my site has now a DA of 40.

But please do let me know what else would you like to see on this site and I will take it from there.

Until then please come and follow us on social media – I spend a lot more time there sharing bits about our life.

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  1. Mark
    April 12, 2016 / 5:56 pm

    I am not a mum but a Dad but our one month old’s Mum is Romanian. I have found your blog interesting but don’t be afraid to take it wherever it goes. Media has to grow and change with us not us with it and there a few places in “official” media that will tell us the truth – there is usually an agenda. Blogs like yours are the few places of honesty left on-line.

    • Otilia
      April 16, 2016 / 5:49 am

      Thank you Mark. I think that this is exactly what I needed πŸ™‚

  2. Dana Maria
    April 12, 2016 / 6:38 pm

    Please do not give up on this blog. Consider what you had in mind when you first started it. Was it worth starting a blog?
    Maybe you should reinvent it, not give up on it!
    I cannot answer the questions in the post about parenting, but I am sure you will figure out new ideas for the blog posts!
    And please, do not say others are better than you. They are not smarter or better parents. Maybe they have just put some more time in the blog than you! You were more active in the real life, with your girls! You were busy inventing things to do with your girls, while other were busy inventing stories for blog!
    You might not face the same problems anymore, but others will come up! So, share the knowledge! How did you overcome the problems you say you don’t have anymore? There might be people out there who would like to know the problems and their solutions. Would you change anything?
    And if you say you are starting a new “era”, tell them about it. Engage.

    I will ask you to think it through! Be sincere with you! And if, at the end, you’ll find out that it’s not worth your time, or it just doesn’t fit your style anymore, you’ll know what to do. The thing is that, if you do not like what you are doing, your readers will know it right away!

    • Otilia
      April 16, 2016 / 5:48 am

      Oh your comment brought tears in my eyes. It’s not bad i just felt a tiny bit emotional. You know me…and I know you are right. Thank you. Thank you so much for your nice words and for being there for me. Can’t wait to see you xxx

  3. Brigitte Moos
    April 12, 2016 / 9:38 pm

    I would say keep the design simple. Also, you can post other mum’s stories in here like a feature. I saw some bloggers do that.

    • Otilia
      April 16, 2016 / 5:50 am

      Yes that is very true. Would you like to write on my blog every now and then? I think it will be interesting to hear about life as a romanian mum in Australia too. πŸ™‚

  4. April 23, 2016 / 8:23 pm

    I think it is so hard to know what to do once you have fallen out of love with a site. I’d say don’t push it too hard and just see where it naturally goes, without it being forced. Mich x

    • Otilia
      April 24, 2016 / 6:30 am

      I know what you mean…I sort of do what you say. Taking it slowly…and keeping it simple…Thank you Mitch!

  5. April 26, 2016 / 7:36 am

    Some times it only needs a small change to refresh the site rather than a complete over haul. Just keep writing about things you love to do and enjoy rather than looking for set topics. You will soon find your inspiration will come back.

    • Otilia
      April 27, 2016 / 7:47 am

      Thank you so much for your advice Nayna. You are so right. Being more relaxed about it is the way to go!

  6. April 26, 2016 / 9:33 am

    I feel in a very similar place to you – I no longer write as freely about my kids as they get older, but am not quite sure what I want to write about instead! I am just going with the flow for now, waiting for inspiration to strike – I hope we both find it soon!

    • Otilia
      April 27, 2016 / 7:49 am

      Fingers crossed for both of us! Love to you xxx

  7. April 26, 2016 / 12:00 pm

    I think we all go through phases like this from time to time. Your mojo will come back I’m sure. In the meantime, enjoy all the spare time you have not slaving over it! x

    • Otilia
      April 27, 2016 / 5:41 pm

      oh yes! it doesn’t really happen the spare time πŸ™‚ and when i do i crochet πŸ™‚

  8. April 26, 2016 / 7:50 pm

    I agree with a comment above, keep it simple and clean I like how it looks now and you have some wonderful pictures. I really love the section on Romanian traditions, its something unique and I love it.

    • Otilia
      April 27, 2016 / 12:18 pm

      Thank you lovely. I done it all myself this time and as I am learning more about design I might improve. For now though I think it is ok.

  9. April 26, 2016 / 10:34 pm

    I think that it is really important to take time out when you are not in the right place for blogging. But do not stop, that would be terrible!

    • Otilia
      April 27, 2016 / 7:53 am

      Oh yes.! In the last year I was really quiet and after being for 2 years in the Top 100 in tots I am now way below…but hey…at least my DA is 40! LOL

  10. April 26, 2016 / 11:37 pm

    Wow I think most bloggers could only dream of a DA that high! Well done you! I often feel like I don’t do enough with my blog. It’s always been just a hobby but it’s difficult not to get wrapped up on the whole stats thing. I’ve also wanted to revamp my blog for at least a year… I’m just too lazy…. actually I would rather spend time with the kids πŸ™‚ I think you should blog as and when you feel like it otherwise you won’t enjoy it at all xx

    • Otilia
      April 27, 2016 / 11:17 am

      I’ve been blogging a while now so I guess high DA comes with time too. I don’t know much about it though…LOL.Thank you for your advice

  11. April 27, 2016 / 6:35 am

    I often fall out of love with my blog but after taking a break, it always comes back to me.
    I started it as a diary for my kids to look back on and when I remember why I started it, it makes me want to carry on, for them πŸ™‚

    • Otilia
      April 27, 2016 / 12:15 pm

      Taking a break every now and then it certainly helps!

  12. April 27, 2016 / 9:56 am

    I think it’s so easy to get into a rut with blogging, but there’s nothing wrong with taking a bit of time out, just sticking to your regular features until you’re inspired to write more, and the inspiration will come!

    • Otilia
      April 27, 2016 / 12:17 pm

      Thank you Niki. You all gave me such good advice! I guess when I remember that I use to post at least a couple of time a week it’s what drags me down…

  13. May 3, 2016 / 9:53 am

    That’s incredible a DA of 40! Well done, that’s very impressive πŸ™‚ Your blog is lovely, sometimes you just need a little break, before you feel like continuing again! x

    • Otilia
      May 3, 2016 / 3:59 pm

      Thank you. That is True i so needed a break!

  14. May 9, 2016 / 4:57 pm

    Definitely do not stop Otilia but take a break. Sometimes it’s good to step back to identify what you want to write about and what you want the focus of your blog to be. Readers will follow, you just need to decide what’s important to you. It is your blog after all :))

    • Otilia
      September 7, 2016 / 8:48 am

      I know. It did help me write this post as well. Now looking back 4 months ago. I didn’t write a lot since then but I did write. Thank you x

  15. May 16, 2016 / 7:54 pm

    It is your blog, don’t let it be dictated by others – write about you, your family and the fun you have x

    • Otilia
      September 7, 2016 / 8:47 am

      Thank you Kara. You are so right.

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